Online Relationships

What is it with people meeting someone online, never meeting them in person, but starting a relationship (i.e., calling each other boyfriend and girlfriend, etc.)?  I don’t get it.  Do they actually think that this is the way to begin a deep and meaningful relationship?

I admit to being guilty of doing this once.  I met a guy online and we hit it off.  We started a relationship that consisted of texting and messaging each other.  But we did meet in person and we got together several times.  Unfortunately the long-distance relationship didn’t last.  Not really surprising since we didn’t have a foundation of a relationship to work off of.

But getting seriously involved with someone you have never even met is just mind-boggling to me.  I don’t get it.  Are we so involved with our technology that we forgot how to go out and meet people in our own geographical area?  Do churches no longer exist in the real world?  Or bookstores?  Or coffee shops?  Or grocery stores?  Is it really that hard to meet somebody that you desperately cling to a virtual person who really only exists online?  Sure, they may be a real person.  They may even be the person they claim to be, but you aren’t getting to know the real person that they are.

You see, you can be anything you want over the internet.  You don’t have to show the person all your bad habits.  You don’t even show them your good habits.  The person you meet online doesn’t exist and they never will.

I would like to note, by the way, that I am only talking about relationships started online over a long distance in which two people have never physically met and, even if they do meet, they will only be able to see each other at best a couple of times per year.  I am not referring to online relationships with local people or with people who have the funds to travel to see each other on a regular basis.

What do you think?  Please leave your comments below.


I am a 43-year-old, single mom of 19-year-old boy/girl twins living in an extremely small town in rural Texas. Currently, I am employed as a Site Supervisor for a prominent corporation that provides security officers for homes and businesses.

8 thoughts on “Online Relationships

  1. It’s not that we can’t Or wouldn’t be willing to find someone in our geographical area, we simply just don’t want to, we simply want each other.
    Also catfish is NOT. Good example of how many more serious online relationships are.

      • I think that’s my opposition I have seen it successful a couple times by people in my circle of friends and family members. It depends on how the person approches it, you don’t just look at a couple pictures and decide that’s who you want a partner in.

      • That is definitely my point. It’s not that they begin relationships this way. It’s the ones who dive right in and claim to love each other after only talking online a few times. As I stated in my post, the ones that work are the ones that have the money to travel long distances or already live in the same geographical area. Those are the ones who are able to put effort into a meaningful relationship.

  2. See I find that visitation can come in time, me and my SO waited over a year before starting to execute meeting each other, mostly due to the large distance between us and the fact we are both university students with full schedules. But I do agree you can’t just chat with someone a couple times and decide you love them, it takes time, commitment and trust just as a relationship with someone in your geographical area would. Claiming you love someone and showing it are two completely different things, wether you can touch your partner or not.

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