Blogging Circle of Friends: Day 366: On November 19th, 1997 in Des Moines, Iowa, Bobbi McCaughey gives birth to septuplets in the second known case where all seven babies were born alive. They would go on to become the first set of septuplets to survive infancy, with all seven alive today.
Prompt: Is it an advantage or disadvantage having siblings the same age as you? What do you think its like living in that house? What about going to school and half the class are your siblings?
Before I get to the prompt, I would like to address the issue of the septuplets. I have very strong feelings regarding this and I’m certain not everyone will agree with me, but I must address this. The McCaughey septuplets were conceived from fertility drugs. Their parents declined selective reduction and chose to put it in God’s hands. Here is my problem: They chose to use fertility drugs in order to conceive, meaning that they chose to take the conception out of God’s hands, but they wouldn’t use selective reduction because they wanted to put it in God’s hands. Do you see the contradiction here?
As a mother I can completely understand that selective reduction would be a horrible choice to make and I respect them for not making it. But I also cannot conceive of any reason why I would purposely choose to conceive children in an unnatural way that increases the risks of them having brain damage and other health risks. Two of their children were born with cerebral palsy. They will most likely need medical attention for the rest of their lives. Their parents condemned them to a life of dependency. And for what? So they could have children?
Because of the amount of children that they had and the ones with special needs, do you really think that these children are getting the care that they deserve? Now don’t get me wrong, I’m certain that their parents are striving to provide them with basic needs (i.e., food, clothing, shelter, etc.). But what about love and attention and physical contact? Did these parents think of this when they chose to use fertility drugs? Did they think of anything but themselves when they chose to use this method to conceive?
And what happens to those children who require care for the rest of those lives once their parents are dead and gone? Who will care for them then? Do you think a state facility will love them the way a parent does?
Okay, rant over. On to the prompt. I have twins. One boy. One girl. I realized immediately that sibling rivalry actually begins in the womb. They were constantly kicking to try to get their own space. Then, once they were born, they would cry for Mommy’s attention and compete with each other for who could be loudest.
As they grew older, they would compete for each other’s friends. There was never enough space in the house. They would fight constantly with each other. Don’t get me wrong. They love each other without doubt, but they never get enough attention.
I’m certain with septuplets it’s even harder for them to get attention. And forget about school. At least twins can be separated, but when there are seven children, I doubt you can separate all of them.